Parenting

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

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Parenting

Two Is A Crowd – LOL


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This is for all the SINGLE MOM’s out there who have kids and especially young boys who adore them…… Take more time away from them!! LOL My son feels that if he is not away at some type of camp, or baseball practice, basketball practice, band practice, martial arts practice, soccer practice or at school….. That he is indeed supposed to be with me!!!!!!
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Talk about 2 is crowd lately …forget the number 3… When I pick him up from different places and he sees that I have bags OF ANY SORTS or my phone rings and ” HE DOES NOT RECOGNIZE” the person’s voice, name or face on my smart phone – he feels some kind of way!!
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Mom’s I tell you…….lately TWO IS A CROWD in my book!! Geesh… This boy! Yes, we are disgusting close BUT at the same time – he knows that I am not and have NOT raised any ” Momma’s Boys” either.  It is a shame that a mom would RUIN her son like that because it would make him NO GOOD to women as he gets older….. Something about mothers and sons….. I tell ya! Yikes!!
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Had to vent because over the last week – my son has been SUFFOCATING me! LOL – It is like he misses me and does not want to tell me – he went away for camp again and was gone for a week but the camp is only like an hour and a half away – and he is just…… UGGGHHH!!!..  Like I said – two is a crowd! LOL

Parenting

Another Letter – “for him”


Wow, we have made it 11 years TOGETHER and we still are “besties”…..LOL

Thank you so much for teaching me how to become a better PERSON first…. There has been SEVERAL times / moments that had me displaying anger due to a multiplicity of things that either HAPPENED or DID NOT HAPPENED and through it all – you have always been my “soft voice” to calm my nerves!

May 31, 2013 is a day that I am grateful to see with you……

Although you turn 11 years old today but God know that spiritually you are at least 16 years of age and naturally just doing everyday normal adult like things – you are EASILY at least 18 years old – *go get your driver’s license* ( LOL) 

I would like to apologize to you for the days that I may have FUSSED at you more than you may have wanted to deal with – I forget sometimes that although you are VERY MATURE for your age…..at the end of the day –

You are “STILL” a little boy …who is growing up into a mature “tween” and I have to allow you to do that REGARDLESS how many times you say and do things that seem / are adult like. Thank you for allowing me to MOTHER you and choosing to love me back!

DISCLAIMER: –

It is NO SECRET that you have almost “everything” but I still pray that this weekend, “starting today”  – you will realize how blessed you really are and not to take even the things that you may feel is “little” or “ordinary” or “what you feel is a standard way of life” for granted.

REALIZE  the daily gems /  the lifestyle that I provide for you is NOT normal for the average kid……. You are beyond blessed – remember that!

Love you 2 Life…….

 “Momma Pooh”

Helping Self...

Low – Medium – High Speed


This is how fast my life has felt over the last 3 months…. Am I exhausted? Sure thing – Would I change anything? Sure thing! LOL I am HAPPY but am I ever ” so exhausted ” mentally – socially – spiritually – emotionally – physicallly ETC…ETC..ETC…

Dear ( ME )

Wishful Thinking….


For me to STOP THINKING sooooooo much!! LOL The brain needs rest and so do I….. Any suggestions?

Being a mother

Being a big brother ( yes! although I am a female ) SILLY AND SCARY isn’t it

Being a big sister  ( although I am next to the baby in age )

Being a husband to my mother ( yes! that sounds crazy to but since my dad passed away almost 5 SHORT years ago – im it! ) don’t think dirty people

AND THE LIST I NOTICED……. as I was writing today literally just kept going on and on and ON!!! My hand did hurt and so did my head! ( too much )

Being any and everything TO EVERYONE is just plumb old exhausting and I gave up at least 10 of my 20 hats TODAY!!

I am soo proud of myself and God knows that the people who always wanted me to WEAR hats that I should have taken OFF a long time ago are in for a huge shock. Nontheless, they all will be ok and this too shall pass….

Whew…. Now I can breathe again……..

Inspiration

My Little – Big ” Love “


 Well my goodness, this little person right here ^^^^^^^^^^is just the SUNLIGHT of all of my days!! He indeed inspires me to be a better person and to ALWAYS be mindful of doing the right thing! Even when I have massive cases of road rage while I am driving! LOL

Well of course he thinks and feels that he is the man of not only the house but also MY LIFE! LOL  He is 10 years old and surely going on at least 21 years of age and it is such a sight to see. With the DIRECTION of The Lord, I have really raised a little -big man and with the lack of some personal relationships that SHOULD be in his life – God is seeing that my son is able to still sustain  great mental and emotional relationships in his life.

He is indeed one of the best things that have ever happened to me…… That is huge when I can count on ONE HAND of great things that has transpired in my life – Sometimes I feel as if he semi – saved my life via what I was dealing with while I was carrying him and even raising him – Yeah, my Little – Big ” Love ” is very near and dear to ME!

 

Thank goodness for God allowing me to have my son and to raise him with the love and fear of God in his heart. I am super grateful too! Want to see me smile? Well, just look at his face and you will see why he makes me smile when I cry and makes me calm when I am angry. Love my boop!

Parenting

Open and Closed Letter


To My Oldest Kids,

I was sitting here thinking and re- evaluations a whole of things that transpired between the 3 of us over the years., Then I also had a talk with one of your previous coaches, talked to a few other relatives, talked to God and even had a tiny conversation with myself about you and your sister over your very LONG teenage years.  I was a little excited because you will both be turning 19 years of age in July and I still ask myself where did the time go! Although you guys are fraternal twins – sometimes I wonder if you are really indeed twins at all because you both just have WAY too, too, too, too, too, too  many differences! ( good and bad )

Nonetheless, as I move on in my life I wanted you to know that I will always – always love you and I am NO LONGER upset with either one of you! Plus, if I desire to get into Heaven, I better not be mad anymore! Plus, it is not worth it at all….

Well, with you both, Please know that  I am just no longer willing to accept your disrespect and your unwillingness to put in the time and effort that it takes for us to build and maintain a loving and healthy relationship….

I am sure that you are shocked but guess what – I was too when I was able to FINALLY come to this point in my life!

Like I said at the beginning of this letter, you both will be turning 19 years of age next month and I have been struggling HARD with the both of you since you were 12 1/2 and I do believe that it is time for ME to see about ME.  You guys have chosen for the last 7 years of what you wanted to do…when you wanted to do it…if you wanted to do it…who you wanted to do it for and with…. and sad to say, None of it INCLUDED ME!

I love you guys to pieces and when “it is time”, we will connect again but it will be on my time and terms…. oh an by the way, I am glad that you both are my kids … EVEN THOUGH YOU DON’T ACT, SPEAK, OR DRESS LIKE IT!

If you need need better interpretation of this quick – blunt – open and closed letter, please consult God!

Love,

Mom

P.S. If you cannot tell by now – I have allowed every year that has passed to MAKE ME better and not bitter!