Inspiration

Hmmmm….This Surely Encouraged Me –


There is a great deal that I DO NOT agree with in regards to our current President – Nevertheless, I will run across small snippets of things that he does “behind the scenes” and it is at “these moments”… my vantage point widens…..  Hearing him talk about REAL LIFE things – encouraged me –

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Parenting

A Little Wisdom –


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The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It’s seen in the width of his arms that circle you. The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It’s in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn’t in how respected he is at work. It’s in how respected he is at home. The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It’s in how tender he touches. The strength of a man isn’t in the hair on his chest. It’s in his Heart … that lies within his chest.
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The strength of a man isn’t how many women he’s loved. It’s in how he can be true to one woman. The strength of a man isn’t in the weight he can lift. It’s in the burdens he can carry.
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Honor, Respect, Faith, Relationship with God, Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends, Giving, Compassion, Love and Commitment are “some of the things” that a Single Mother can show HER SON which can aid to help nurture him to be a GREAT MAN.

Even without a father – being present and producing a CONSISTENT voice and presence in their son’s lives – I often tell some of my girl pals NOT to become bitter when God has already equipped our sons as well as ourselves to “put in the POSITIVE SEEDS” of Life –

Oh by the way….. Women Rock… and Single Moms are Doing Their Thing –

“God got us AND our boys”……….. just STAY being a light, an example of Christian Living –

Parenting

Co – Parenting


imageWhen children spend their time split between parents’ houses, there are several issues that may arise. It would be LOVELY if SIMPLE things like this would transpire – Co – Parenting can BE DONE – but you need willing parties!

One of the benefits that co-parenting provides is supplying children with a close and fair relationship with both parties. Even though the parents may have their disagreements and different views, for the sake of the children, it is imperative that they put all issues aside and set some uniform rules that must be followed within both households. 
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Also Parents HAVE TO EVEN FIRST understand what THEIR ROLE as a parent is and then co – parenting would not be so hard for them! Yes, it can drive you crazy when the other parent is totally “off of their game” but for the sake of the child – you pray and push forward…. (ugghh)
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1. One of the most important rules in co-parenting is to never talk badly about the other parent to the children. When children witness this behavior, they will think it is OK for them to do the same. Children should not view their parents as enemies, but rather as a team, even though they may not live together anymore. When children realize that their parents are a team, the child will no longer choose a favorite or take sides in disagreements between the parents.

2. There should be a uniform set of rules that is enforced in each household. If children notice that they are able to get away with more at one house versus the other, that will cause the children to develop a favorite household for the wrong reasons.

3. If a child misbehaves and is punished, the punishment should follow them to the other parent’s house as well. Children should not think they are off the hook once they go to visit the other parent. This will teach them that no matter what household they are in, they cannot get away with misbehaving.
Parenting

Good Song 4 My Son –


This song just put my son to sleep!! It is AMAZING how good God is….. Worship is a beautiful thing! Look at my baby sleeping sooo peacefully! Parenting can be tough when it comes to trying to keep your kids from getting hurt….

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I am so so happy – that he was able to let the song minister to his heart!!! Welp, so on that note… Good night folks!

Parenting

Quick Parenting Talks –


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My current situation on a Monday night….. I wish that I could just be laying and watching television but im not! My son and I are re – capping the conversation that we had earlier today on our way home about how he wish things were different.

As a single parent………. I have always seemed to have to endure heart wrenching talks with my 11 year old wonderful son in regards to his relationship with his father –  uuuggghh … I tell you – it makes me sad and angry all at the same time! HOWEVER, God has granted me the ability and choice to pray and wait on Him to move in this area.

My son went down for prayer yesterday at church in regards to his father and the inconsistency that is VERY MUCH alive within their relationship. It was good for my son to go down on his own because it allowed us both to hold onto hope yet again! Regardless of what his father not being there on a consistent basis, it is BOTH of our desires that God would show him what he indeed is missing –
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Children NEED both their Fathers and their Mothers because they have something to INSTILL into their children. God has a plan for my son and I am STILL holding onto to the things that I know to be true. It is a weekly prayer that we have to do in regards to making sure that my son DOES NOT BECOME BITTER.

The dynamic is VERY INTERESTING because he can talk with his father one day after months going by and my son will be like mushy puddy because OF COURSE he just misses his father – however, as soon as he hangs up the phone – he comes in pours his heart onto my shirt, lap and shoulder with tears-
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As his mother – I keep my PERSONAL FEELINGS to myself and just talk, pray and hug on him always reminding him how AWESOME of a son he indeed is. I also remind my son that we STILL have to pray for his father in spite of….
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Prayer is one thing but God knows that actions are just as important to the lives of children in regards to their parents.

Whew – he is better now – this is a ROUTINE that I cannot wait to be stopped / FIXED in Jesus name –

Honey, it is SPIRITUALLY, MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY exhausting for me and my son but God is the PERFECT Healer in any and all situations that may seem where there is NO HOPE – Thank God for His goodness and His mercy during this time!

Parenting

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

Parenting

Two Is A Crowd – LOL


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This is for all the SINGLE MOM’s out there who have kids and especially young boys who adore them…… Take more time away from them!! LOL My son feels that if he is not away at some type of camp, or baseball practice, basketball practice, band practice, martial arts practice, soccer practice or at school….. That he is indeed supposed to be with me!!!!!!
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Talk about 2 is crowd lately …forget the number 3… When I pick him up from different places and he sees that I have bags OF ANY SORTS or my phone rings and ” HE DOES NOT RECOGNIZE” the person’s voice, name or face on my smart phone – he feels some kind of way!!
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Mom’s I tell you…….lately TWO IS A CROWD in my book!! Geesh… This boy! Yes, we are disgusting close BUT at the same time – he knows that I am not and have NOT raised any ” Momma’s Boys” either.  It is a shame that a mom would RUIN her son like that because it would make him NO GOOD to women as he gets older….. Something about mothers and sons….. I tell ya! Yikes!!
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Had to vent because over the last week – my son has been SUFFOCATING me! LOL – It is like he misses me and does not want to tell me – he went away for camp again and was gone for a week but the camp is only like an hour and a half away – and he is just…… UGGGHHH!!!..  Like I said – two is a crowd! LOL