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Moms….. TAKE Time!


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Most women already know what the statistics bear: You are still carrying most of the load. You juggle kids, work, home, volunteering and everything else in between. Are you really enriching your life by doing everything?

“When we are stressed, overwhelmed and tired, we have a shorter fuse. We become irritable, and it’s more difficult to handle the challenges of being with children,”…………..
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Logically, you know that running yourself on empty isn’t good for your health or your family. But the instinct to be a devoted mother means operating in overdrive…….. MENTAL BREAK DOWN is what we should avoid!  You want your children to be happy, and you desire to give them every possible life experience, even at the expense of your own needs. You feel guilty if your children don’t have everything you think they should have.

Now that you know it is healthy and even productive to take a “time out,” how can you actually take one when you can’t possibly drop one thing on your schedule?
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Take stock of what you are doing now. Do you really need to bake three dozen cookies for every parent meeting? Or chaperone the next field trip? Will your children really be scarred for life if they don’t have a dinner made from scratch? Do you…… DO I …… LOL, have to put my son in EVERY kind of activity? Honey, I do stay EXHAUSTED because of it!!
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Seriously think about what your own goals are. Focus on your interests and the opportunities at hand. Once you have your focus on target, the wasted time that goes along with being pulled in too many directions will be a thing of the past.

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Memories –


I was thinking of when I was being honored at a Banquet and when I realized that my son was getting an award as well –  You know I was mushy and teary eyed!! About 5 years ago – I started doing street ministry but to the Homeless population  called The Coleman Cares Winter Project and I went out from October until April giving out clothes, coats, socks, hot beverages and food.
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This was done by MY OWN money as well as my son’s little piggy bank ( by his choice – which touched my heart as well ) Nonetheless, my son was also honored since he was in the trenches with me! This photo was taken when my NOW 11 year old son was about 6 years old.

The Lord’s work has its own kind of reward that does not always come / show up in the FORM of currency……God is good.

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Another Letter – “for him”


Wow, we have made it 11 years TOGETHER and we still are “besties”…..LOL

Thank you so much for teaching me how to become a better PERSON first…. There has been SEVERAL times / moments that had me displaying anger due to a multiplicity of things that either HAPPENED or DID NOT HAPPENED and through it all – you have always been my “soft voice” to calm my nerves!

May 31, 2013 is a day that I am grateful to see with you……

Although you turn 11 years old today but God know that spiritually you are at least 16 years of age and naturally just doing everyday normal adult like things – you are EASILY at least 18 years old – *go get your driver’s license* ( LOL) 

I would like to apologize to you for the days that I may have FUSSED at you more than you may have wanted to deal with – I forget sometimes that although you are VERY MATURE for your age…..at the end of the day –

You are “STILL” a little boy …who is growing up into a mature “tween” and I have to allow you to do that REGARDLESS how many times you say and do things that seem / are adult like. Thank you for allowing me to MOTHER you and choosing to love me back!

DISCLAIMER: –

It is NO SECRET that you have almost “everything” but I still pray that this weekend, “starting today”  – you will realize how blessed you really are and not to take even the things that you may feel is “little” or “ordinary” or “what you feel is a standard way of life” for granted.

REALIZE  the daily gems /  the lifestyle that I provide for you is NOT normal for the average kid……. You are beyond blessed – remember that!

Love you 2 Life…….

 “Momma Pooh”

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Birds of A Feather, MAYBE?


My son and I attended a drug and social media seminar and I took this photo of him as he was listening to the speakers and the Powerpoint presentation.
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It was NOT until I looked at this photo this morning I pinched myself…. I realized how much that I am rubbing off on my son  – I guess you would have to know me as well as be around me PERSONALLY to understand what I am talking about.

I was groomed MOSTLY by men from my father…. to his brothers….to his sister’s husband…to males at work and church…to my older male friends…. so yeah.. I AM A BIT INTENSE sometimes…..

I joke with people all the time and tell them that some days I have on PANTS up under my SKIRT because being a single parent and raising a BOY is a whole different ball game. It almost forces you to be in “prep mode” all the time!
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Do I look like a person who would BITE your head off? LOL Well, hmmm… I will just say that ” I NO LONGER ” try to bite! LOL I have learned self control…… However, I am CONSTANTLY always asking God to show me balance and show me when to be strict / hard v.s. soft and lenient.

The goal for women should be to be tough when needed…. but NEVER HARD – we are women – gentle flowers…creatures and no one want to be with or be around a HARD WOMAN!  I am grateful that I have “found the balance” that I need.

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Best 2 Minutes EVER!


Being silly is a craft that my son has enjoyed as you can see!…

You gotta love this face! LOL

He says mom, let’s do something really FUNNY….

Okay last one buddy! Thanks mom for “FINALLY” being super silly with me!!

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FINALLY!


Over the last 2 weeks, I have been obtaining strategy to deal with my family – mainly my almost 19 year old twin children. I have written MANY blogs about them and 2 out of 50 have been positive and the 50 of course has been me expressing how much pain that I have been experiencing.  Well, the last 2 weeks have mentally, emotionally and spiritually AMAZING! I have finally LET GO in order for The Lord to FLOW in their lives! I did not think that I would be able to do it but I did and I am very glad about it. God knows that I love my two oldest BUT the way that they have treated me since they have stayed with their father has TRULY BEEN UNBEARABLE!  I am no perfect mother but I have strived for perfection in Christ Jesus!

I just FINALLY have peace and joy with how I will deal with my kids going forward because you have no idea how horrid it has been for me over the years. When God would instruct me to do things and I DID NOT WANT TO, I did anyway. Doing things GOD’S WAY is always a must for TRUE and LASTING success! My children have only desired to use me for what I was able to give them or what doors that I would be able to open for them-  God showed me last week that is the same concept that we as Christians do towards Him! Nonetheless, this time of silence and separation that HE has ordained for me I have SOOOOOOO EMBRACED!

To my fellow parents, especially single parents – KNOW THAT the seeds of Christ that you have implanted into your children shall not die within them and your labor has not been in vain! You have to NOW operate as a minister and NOT as an earthly parent because going back and forth being a minister then handling your kids as a parent confuses the very task of what you are trying to accomplish. For goodness sake, ALWAYS STAND YOUR GROUND via your Christian principles and what you will and will not allow in your life, your house, your atmosphere etc.

It may take a minute for you to obtain the epiphany but know that it will come so you can move forward in the things of God on your children’s behalf. What God has me operating is BEYOND the Tough Love Approach – this is SPIRITUAL WARFARE!

The beauty of it ” NOW ” is that I know that I am at the end of the war!!! The enemy has been winning all of these battles between me and my teenagers but I serve a God that reminds me and has shown me how I AM GOING TO WIN! Matter of fact, I have already won and I am just in the waiting period of the situation! To God be the Glory for the many things that He has done, is doing and will do!

It feels utterly amazing

Dear ( ME )

Excitement – 101


Umm…. Maybe I should NOT be so excited that my son is going to be GONE after his band recital tonight? Well that is all apart of Excitement 101’s FIRST STEP! We must EMBRACE IT so that we can effectively enjoy it! LOL

It is Memorial Day weekend and I seem to FORGET about it every year… silly I know but my son’s bday is the following weekend and we always go away and do something lazy, fun and exciting so that is what connects my mind with the month of May.

I will be FREE IN JESUS – LOL Having a good ole’ time……………….  my personal little party will end on Sunday afternoon because he has of course.. ANOTHER baseball game! Lord knows…the Heavens know… even the little flies that irritate me as I am driving knows that  I love my baby DEARLY….  to the point it can be indeed sickening sometimes…

But!!! and thank God for the but… he has been driving me BONKERS over the past month and a half! So yeah.. see ya bye! He will be at cook outs… swimming parties… birthday parties.. movies…amusement parks.. and I will be NO WHERE to be found!

EXCITEMENT 101- embrace what has made you excited and enjoy it to the fullest!!

Drum Roll PLEASE!!   >>>>>>>FOR A CHANGE………….

I can JUST be a woman and not a mommy or SUPER  WOMAN for a few days! WHOO – HOO!!