I could NOT have been blessed with a more amazing Valentine’s Day….. Yes, I hung out with friends, girl pals and even some family.. but this SPECIAL PERSON had really placed a smile on my face….
My son is indeed the APPLE of my eye!! Mom, women aren’t supposed to pump gas and other things if a MAN is around! I am thanking God for allowing me to have 2 parents that showed me the things of life…. because I surely passed them down. My daddy, RIP ( Norris Coleman) especially showed me what men are to do AND not to do –
Son: Mom tell me what you want from me and I will buy it or do it
Me: Aww baby, you are already doing it – being a good Christian boy and I thank God 4 you
Son: Thanks mom but for real, I want to take care of you
Me: GIGGLE… Jared my love – you have been ever since you were in my stomach!!
Son: Well Here Mom, here is a start……
Me: I’m crying because he spent his piggy bank money on me to show me he loves his mommy!
There is a great deal that I DO NOT agree with in regards to our current President – Nevertheless, I will run across small snippets of things that he does “behind the scenes” and it is at “these moments”… my vantage point widens….. Hearing him talk about REAL LIFE things – encouraged me –
For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.
Okay – my son knows about politics and the things that occur in the world via CNN, the regular news stations and the things that I discuss with him – It is going on 9 pm and I am fussing at him in regards to getting himself together for school and he is ironing his clothes while chatting with me all at the same time……
Then from out of no where – he says mom remember every time there is a new POPE for the Catholic Church it is all over the news for days and it takes over the programs on television. I said yes, he said isn’t the POPE in another country and again, I answered yes.
Yall ready for this 11 year old’s child DISCOVERY!! >>>> His next statement / question to me was this…..
Well mom, I don’t get that President Nelson Mandela died and he did so much for blacks and whites, was in jail and forgave the people for being mean to him then ran for president right? AGAIN … I said yes baby – He states, why didnt the media cover Nelson Mandela’s funeral on most of all the news channels like they do when they vote for a new POPE or when PEOPLE FROM ENGLAND GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!
Okay y’all, that was enough for me right there!! Whew – my son is indeed amazing! I taught him good and God surely is molding his little mind for such a time as this!
Oh did I have a splendid time on today in regards to fellowship at my place of worship! It is funny to me because I am so used to being in church EACH SERVICE for at least 3 hours. My son and I got home a little after 11 am this morning and it threw me off until at least 4 pm – SERIOUSLY!
I am so grateful for at least “this season” I am somewhere I am enjoying – learning new things about myself and discovering the Love of Christ in such a new and beautiful way –
The worship experience is so FREE that it makes me feel as if I am indeed floating on the promises of God Himself! It is different but good – new but old – loud but angelic – busy but therapuetic – short but long and I am happy as ever.
A HUGE PERK for me is that my 11 1/2 year old son really likes it as well – WHEW- So grateful
As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things… BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . . I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…
Oh how I cannot explain how being with LOVED ones can make you feel – Life can be so up and down at times – so when you are able to spend your time with Family – it is a wonderful feeling –
As always…. I am re inventing myself – my thoughts – my choices – my views – my stances – my morals – my values – my beliefs and I am becoming a better individual for Christ’s sake –
I am just humbled to feel loved – humbled to be loved – humbled to share in life’s experiences – etc..etc.etc… Being grateful indeed is a choice – I choose – to love – to be happy – to live – to be inspired ….
No one knows when their last day will be upon this evolving earth to see your loved ones – so why NOT spend AS MUCH TIME as possible with them? It DOES NOT have to be for any apparent reason – how about “just because”…
These last few months have really have me in a very DIFFERENT – WEIRD – INTERESTING – INSPIRING – EYE OPENING – TRANSPARENT etc…etc..etc.. for ME –
Do you NOT feel that indeed life is too short? Are you wasting time with situations…people..things that you know that you should not be?
It is 2013 and will be 2014 in almost 5 SECONDS…..
Life is short and it is crazy that people will settle for anything that they do not want in their life – why be miserable when you actually have the POWER to “fix things” yourself –
Peace and Love are two PLATINUM things that I search for – hold onto and need in my life