Parenting

Mothers and Sons


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As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
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However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things…  BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . .  I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
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When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…

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Relationships

My Son and His Glad Heart!


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My son and this man has always shared a special bond….. It is so imperative that men REGARDLESS of what age, have male role models, male mentors, male inspired people in their lives……

Being able to share priceless moments is a blessing and my son appreciates all the male mentors in his life. Besides another male mentor that is in his life, no one can bring a smile to his face like this man.

We actually even talked about no matter what community event or church function we are at and he sees him, he becomes ax excited young man. I told him that I know he indeed loves his father, but he does NOT SMILE, GIGGLE, CHUCKLE, GET EXCITED the same way when he is with his father v.s. this man.

My son met him about 5 -6 years ago and he loved him from day one and my son said to me today that he can tell that he has a good relationship with God. I said yes baby, he is special and has a great deal of characteristics that people just don’t see nor experience anymore from men in ministry.

He said he wish that his father had the same type of Jesus on him!!!! I tried MY BEST to keep my facial expressions together but inside I did know AND UNDERSTAND what my son was speaking about. It is not always about how much time a person spends with my son rather than the impact of what is done for him in the time is spent with him.

Of course I never have or ever will speak harshly about his father to him but kids ARE VERY HONEST about their feelings!! What they see as well as what they feel!!! My son is an Old Soul anyway…

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Anyway, this Pastor / Bishop is a very nice……kind ….caring man of God who engages my son’s mind, soul and spirit and I am grateful that their connection was tactfully started years ago and is still very magnetic to my son from the moment he sees him.

This Bishop surely loves people and has a heart for REAL MINISTRY and he carries the scent of compassion that it’s soooooooooooo contagious!!!

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Me – Myself and I


No longer do I allow my heart to break over silly things, situations and people who have clearly shown me that they need to be placed in the Sea of Unforgetfulness.

  • I am precious to me.
  • Being a woman makes me precious.
  • Because I am a woman I am strong.
  • I love myself.
  • My soul is strong.
  • I have inner strength.
  • I am worthy of great success.
  • I am capable of succeeding without feeling overwhelmed or unfulfilled.
  • I feel fulfilled and joyful.
  • I pursue my life’s purpose.
  • I embrace positive self-esteem.
  • I feel that my future looks bright.
  • I only have positive mental pictures.
  • I have an enthusiastic outlook on life.
  • I stand firmly in my belief in myself.
  • I am strong and secure.
  • I have the power to realize my goals.
  • I maintain my self-confidence in all times and places.
  • I am courageous and brave.
  • I have faith in God and in my actions.
  • I heal all issues affecting my self-confidence.
  • I care about what I think of myself.
  • My personality traits are endearing.
  • I am precious in the eyes of God.
  • I have wisdom to know what to change.
  • I am at peace with the world.
  • I have unique attributes and abilities because I am a woman.
  • I have power to love and be loved.
  • I can love without being in love.
  • I have power to choose my course in life.
  • I am proud of my body for what it is. ( ummm maybe not so! LOL ) 20 pounds to go!
  • I can accept myself for who I am.
  • I recognize and honor my talents, abilities, and skills.
  • I feel confident from the inside out.
  • I say positive things about myself to myself.
  • I love and approve of myself.
  • I feel radiant full of abundant energy and health.
  • I courageously become transparent to bless others.

#CHANGEisgood

Family

Weekend Part 4 A


Okay, I finally made it to my destination and boy is it HOT out here! Thank goodness, there is a space for my mommy to sit and for us to stand up close…..

However, even on ” THIS DAY “……at this moment, the most important thing for me to do is to get MORE PHOTOS FIRST!! The sun was blazing today! LOL

 

So glad to run into so many old faces…. family and friends go hand in hand most times… Especially those individuals who seemed to have ALWAYS been there!

My family – well parts of it at least…… bring me joy and today has allowed me to FORGET the negative things pertaining to my family and concentrate on something good – FOR A CHANGE!

We are all getting settled and trying to hurry up and mingle to get our hugs and kisses in with everyone before everything starts…. It was soo good seeing everyone and just seeing FAMILY together on ONE ACCORD united and truly gathered for the same reason~ LOVE! I am so excited that I cannot even sit still or stand still at this point!!!

Ministry

School Project


The enemy would LOVE to take any human being at any time…any moment and anywhere. If he can obtain “space” during childhood years, to him that is a prize to him. The early years…the growing years…the crucial years are CRUCIAL spiritually.

Right now in one of my Grad School classes we are focusing on deviance and how it happens. I am focusing my studies on HOW – WHEN and WHY it occurs.

This video is a sad but great example to explain and show that spriituality is apart of it. Look at her age and the things that are coming out of her mouth.

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God and Us


 

To understand God is to know HIM – and have entered a personal relationship with HIM. When that happens, it will be a little bit easier to know that HE is the only one who can re – route the final destination of all of your troubles!

Sometimes we have to be willing to let go in order to let God and when we relinquish those things that have served their purpose, we allow space for all that is new & beautiful that we otherwise may not have had room to receive!

Just don’t doubt HIM in the progress!!! He loves us so do not doubt that and if you understand what REAL LOVE is, then you will welcome your progress no matter how difficult it may become. Why? Because you know what ‘your end” will indeed be!

Understand that In transition (s) some people / things and of course situations have to be added – deleted and overall re – evaluated to see the original purpose “if there is any”….

It is time to CONTINUE and fully embrace the season (s) of transition and God’s favor for our lives!

Understand that God is in control and he grants us the GRACE AND MERCY to also have “a say in our lives” by allowing us to make our OWN choices / decisions. We cannot blame Christ for making wrong choices when we do not operate in obedience. He leads and guides and it is our responsibility to FOLLOW HIM –

Get to know God and relinquish the power that you think that you have over your life because your life is not your own.

Parenting

took my break and now im better


Last time  I blogged while I was at my son’s Tae kwon do class, I was miserable and just plain tired of all of the ripping and running that I do as a single mom! The blog wasnt bad nor was it crazy but it indeed showed that I was TIRED and was really trying to balance my time with my son, his school work and his activities.

I feel that it is important for all single parents to understand and realize that taking a break and maintaining a break if you are able is OKAY! My Lord!!! It is surely needed! If you are a “productive parent” who is really active in your child’s life and not allowing other people and other things ( television, the internet and video games ) to watch your kids, then of course you not just NEED a break but you DESERVE a break.. >>>> like ME!I understand that it is INDEED ALRIGHT for me to have “those moments” where I may want to run in a bathroom somewhere and just scream! However, sometimes that may not be feasible for me but I have to find other alternatives so that I dont break!

My son and a few of his friends make me laugh which ends up making me feel better 95% percent of the time and at least for that very “right now moment” it makes things all worth it! Until the NEXT activity or project arises! LOL

fdfdfdfd I also firmly believe that just because he is a child does not mean that he too, does not get stressed out and become frustrated at times…. When we go to the  movies, we BOTH dont like to sit together! LOL He likes to sit at least 2 rows in front of me and on the end… and I am the same way… especially if we have to sit in the same row… I am like leave an EMPTY SEAT in between us….and he too is like YES,I AGREEE! LOL We are together so much that we sometimes act like an old married couple…..

So now that I have caught my breath, obtained a more air tight schedule, I think that moving forward I WILL SURELY BE BETTER! That is what it is all about….learning how to take the break that we all need in life and just STICKING TO IT!

My son really enjoys me being apart of every aspect of his life and I try to do my best as a single mom and the GREAT thing about all of my frustration is ( wow, that didnt even make sense! lol ) but through MY frustration, I at LEAST see that my son appreciates ME!

I wont be any good to my son, let alone myself if I dont deal with what needs to be fixed or cut out from our schedule……. Take a break BEFORE we break is the key and thank God for the Peace that He will supply me with!