Helping Self...

My Sunday Morning Ramble –


I don’t know about you but life indeed is too precious to not honor Christ in your life!

Without Christ, there is actually no life……  Just as much as I cherish my son, God still wants to come FIRST in “my life” …..  in our lives.

Without Him there would be no me, no him and no us to blog about.  I mean, dont you want to have purpose? Experience purpose? See purpose? Enjoy purpose? Thank God for purpose? Live for purpose? If you don’t, then at least realize that YOU should! We ALL were made tactfully and strategically for purpose AND on purpose!

Your life…my life…..means something!!!!!!!!!!!!

Understanding as well as teaching my son that all of his choices have to be God Choices and not Good Choices because indeed there is a difference.

God choices are not temporal but Good choices are. I am not saying that good decision making is a bad ability to have but don’t you want your Good Choices / Good Decisions “to last”……….

Exactly!!!Therefore, with everything decision that needs to be made, including Christ will make all of the difference and make the outcome even Sweeter!


Great Day!! / Life is Good!!


There is power in 3’s……. Great things happen in 3’s…

I cannot even expound upon how amazingly blessed my whole day was today!!! Life is good, it really is!


From as early as 7 am, it has been a very good day!!!! Fellowship is indeed something that I do not take for granted. Life is good, it really is!


Family-friendly fellowship does something to my very being and having GENUINE people in your life is like a pill that I CHOOSE to take on a daily because they make me feel better!!!! Life is good, it really is!


I cant explain how great that I feel at this present moment but if I could draw you a photo, it may look like a bunch of paint just splattered everywhere! Lol


Having God in my life brings me soooooooooooo much peace that even when I have bad days, it allows me to make the choice NOT to complain! Life is really is!


Peace and Joy are special gifts from up above that cannot be given bargained for. So indeed, I do thank God for allowing me to breath again!!!!!! Whew.. Life is good, it really is!


Being able to share all of this love, peace and happiness with my son is just simply amazing… He has the desire to be a better person and he understands who Christ is which in itself is enough to be excited about.



Old friends are also blessings that I cherish in my life and I have learned how to take care and nurture these few relationships that I still choose to keep alive in my life.


Also establishing new friendships can be a good thing as well and just being OPEN to what God will have for me because Life indeed really is good!!! Thank you Jesus!



Over the last 2 weeks, I have been obtaining strategy to deal with my family – mainly my almost 19 year old twin children. I have written MANY blogs about them and 2 out of 50 have been positive and the 50 of course has been me expressing how much pain that I have been experiencing.  Well, the last 2 weeks have mentally, emotionally and spiritually AMAZING! I have finally LET GO in order for The Lord to FLOW in their lives! I did not think that I would be able to do it but I did and I am very glad about it. God knows that I love my two oldest BUT the way that they have treated me since they have stayed with their father has TRULY BEEN UNBEARABLE!  I am no perfect mother but I have strived for perfection in Christ Jesus!

I just FINALLY have peace and joy with how I will deal with my kids going forward because you have no idea how horrid it has been for me over the years. When God would instruct me to do things and I DID NOT WANT TO, I did anyway. Doing things GOD’S WAY is always a must for TRUE and LASTING success! My children have only desired to use me for what I was able to give them or what doors that I would be able to open for them-  God showed me last week that is the same concept that we as Christians do towards Him! Nonetheless, this time of silence and separation that HE has ordained for me I have SOOOOOOO EMBRACED!

To my fellow parents, especially single parents – KNOW THAT the seeds of Christ that you have implanted into your children shall not die within them and your labor has not been in vain! You have to NOW operate as a minister and NOT as an earthly parent because going back and forth being a minister then handling your kids as a parent confuses the very task of what you are trying to accomplish. For goodness sake, ALWAYS STAND YOUR GROUND via your Christian principles and what you will and will not allow in your life, your house, your atmosphere etc.

It may take a minute for you to obtain the epiphany but know that it will come so you can move forward in the things of God on your children’s behalf. What God has me operating is BEYOND the Tough Love Approach – this is SPIRITUAL WARFARE!

The beauty of it ” NOW ” is that I know that I am at the end of the war!!! The enemy has been winning all of these battles between me and my teenagers but I serve a God that reminds me and has shown me how I AM GOING TO WIN! Matter of fact, I have already won and I am just in the waiting period of the situation! To God be the Glory for the many things that He has done, is doing and will do!

It feels utterly amazing

Dear ( ME )

the fighter within…

watch the first episode of Caged right now!

This morning I woke up feeling like a champ… but just because I feel like that I am the female Rocky Balboa does NOT mean that this feeling will always last! Case and point, yesterday I felt like I got seriously punched in the stomach by MORE things that my teenage kids did and said.

Whew talk about Lord!!! Wow, how much shall and can my soul and heart take! I mean pain so gut wrenching that I couldnt even SPEAK…let alone BREATHE!

Nonetheless, I was reminded by the fighter from within… that I was strong, wise and willing to put aside every dead weight and wait on the Lord to redeem me!! He is the only one who is capable of handling my problems with NO ERROR…..  So once I obtained that SERIOUSLY NEEDED Epiphany………I was BACK ON TRACK to greatness… the road is not always clear and the journey is almost never 100% fun but WINNING in the end makes all of the negativity that I have endured over the last 6 years well worth it.

Dear ( ME )

spiritual parents…

Oh how I wish that I had at least ” one set “ of these in my life right now!!!……………. Sure, I have PLENTY of older men and women who are indeed ” of the cloth ” in my life…. However, the good ole’e Lord blessed me with enough wisdom to know that it takes MORE than that because it surely is deeper than that! Spiritual Parents are a vital assest to anyone’s livlihood and can be a great blessing in more ways than one.

Granted throughout my life, I have always had a SINGLE PARENT ministry ..meaning… I have always had a spiritual mother around BUT NEVER…………… and I would really like to put an emphasis on the word >>>>> NEVER…. I have NEVER / EVER had any type of spiritual father in my life…

Now of course I have been “around” spiritual looking father figures.. but AGAIN… thank goodness >>> God has given me enough wisdom to see that they were trying to date me instead of imparting into me… so that was of course a!

Now dont get me wrong…. there are some Mother’s out here in ministry who try to beat the younger ones at dressing, shouting, singing, etc… but beat me at P-R-A-Y-I-N-G-! Show me your Titus Woman Credentials! TEACH ME “FOUNDATIONAL THINGS”… that maybe I may not know about! I know enough protocol to VOMIT… but Im talking about that Secret Place / Beyond the Veil / Late in the MIDNIGHT Hour stuff!!!

No one talks about prayer / prayer meetings / prayer breakfast / fasting / SHUT – INS etc anymore.. If so, it is STILL surely catered around marketing it as ” an EVENT “ status…… Last time I checked… via how I was rasied, YOU DONT MARKET prayer! You DO prayer!

Traveling over the last 7 years has allowed me to  meet some amazing people of God!!! There is truly nothing like the Saints of God and being around them can be fun, tiresome, painful, delightful and all of that wrapped up into 1 word has made me more PRAYERFUL! LOL….

Everyone wants to be called someone else’s Father or Mother and have no idea what they are even stating in the atmosphere! Some people just enjoy titles and then they desire to have a massive enterouge around them to make them look good so it can hide their own issues… yeah I have seen ENOUGH and been through ENOUGH in front and behind the seens to know “what isnt right”…………..  I know that there are several other things that go on behind the realms of ministry BUT……………. people in leadership positions… REGARDLESS if they were Godly given or man – given.. should respect the office ENOUGH to desire to do right by God’s people!

Some people in ministry have BURNED the inside’s of some folks hearts because they were so desperate and transparent about wanting a spiritual father or mother that they put up with sooo much abuse….. the stories that I have heard about and personally know about are mind boggling…. it sometimes felt as if I was trying to convince a woman from leaving an abusive relationship….. the so called sons and daughters just COULD NOT seem to tear themselves from certain men in women in ministry who “they deemed” as their spiritual parents…

So you see… Earthly Parents are important and have a strong role in the lives of children…… so just add some ” SPIRITUAL SUGAR” to it.. and you will see ” how potent” things can really be! Im okay some days, then I get that “father itch” desiring to have a Spiritual Father in my life…. and it is NOT because my Earthly Father was not in my life..

The late, great Norris Coleman was a Southern man who migrated to the North and captured my mother’s heart…. birthed me and he taught me things like I was like his only child and there were 4 other siblings in the household… but TO ME.. that is how close our bond was! He went on to be with the Lord almost 5 years ago ( Feb 2012 ) but spiritually speaking even when he was alive and well….there were things spiritually that I knew that he could not give me… Heaven’s no!!, Did it take away from all that he implanted in me…. because Im a rough..tough..educated…sophisticated….smart…compassionate….heart warming and talented Lady mostly because of my daddy!

UMMM………However.. WE ALL NEED things that are Natural and Spirtual…

Nonetheless, I dont know if it is meant for me to have BOTH parents or just one spiritual parent… ( having BOTH would surely be nice Jesus! LOL )  Also, yes the NORM would think to have two…. but my ways are not God’s ways…..and what I may think the plan is for different aspects of my life may clash with what HIS plans are for me! So until then….. or even if EVER >> when…. LOL I will keep pushing forward with purpose and a glean in my eyes!


fruit and the homeless

Helping the Homeless – By Giving Them FRUIT!

storage o...

Fruit of the Spirit” is a biblical term that sums up the nine visible attributes of a true Christian life. Using the King James Version of Galatians 5:22-23, these attributes are: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance. We learn from scripture that these are not individual “fruits” from which we pick and choose. Rather, the fruit of the Spirit is one ninefold “fruit” that characterizes all who truly walk in the Holy Spirit. Collectively, these are the fruits that all Christians should be producing in their new lives with Jesus Christ.

Fruit of the Spirit – The Nine Biblical Attributes
The fruit of the Spirit is a physical manifestation of a Christian’s transformed life. In order to mature as believers, we should study and understand the attributes of the ninefold fruit:

Love – “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him” (1 John 4:16). Through Jesus Christ, our greatest goal is to do all things in love. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

Joy – “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10). “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2).

Peace – “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ” (Romans 5:1). “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13).

Longsuffering (patience) — We are “strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness” (Colossians 1:11). “With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2).

Gentleness (kindness) — We should live “in purity, understanding, patience and kindness; in the Holy Spirit and in sincere love; in truthful speech and in the power of God; with weapons of righteousness in the right hand and in the left” (2 Corinthians 6:6-7).

Goodness – “Wherefore also we pray always for you, that our God would count you worthy of this calling, and fulfill all the good pleasure of his goodness, and the work of faith with power” (2 Thessalonians 1:11). “For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth” (Ephesians 5:9).

Faith (faithfulness) – “O Lord, thou art my God; I will exalt thee, I will praise thy name; for thou hast done wonderful things; thy counsels of old are faithfulness and truth” (Isaiah 25:1). “I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith” (Ephesians 3:16-17).

Meekness – “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted” (Galatians 6:1). “With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2).

Temperance (self-control) – “But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love” (2 Peter 1:5-7).