Parenting

Encouraging Myself –


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The difficult teen will do things their own way, in their own time, regardless  of your wishes or schedule.
The good teen will do what you ask, when you ask,  even though they may complain a little.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen will try your patience and understanding every  day.  They will challenge the depths of your love, the core of your soul  numerous times throughout each day, until you wonder if you have any strength  left.  The good teen will try your patience and understanding from time to  time. They will challenge your ability to see just how many extracurricular  activities you can cram into each day, until you wonder if you have any energy  left.
It’s easy to love a good child.

The difficult teen will sneak  out of the house at night to buy drugs, only to have the police knock at your  door at 3am on a work night so you can come down to the station to pick them up.  They’ve been arrested.
The good teen will sneak out of the house at night (on  a weekend) to TP the soccer coach’s house after a big win, only to go back to  the coaches house the next morning.  To help clean up.
It’s easy to love a  good child.

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The difficult teen will skip school, even when you drop them  off out front and watch them walk inside.  No matter how hard a parent tries to  help or force a child, the difficult teen may not graduate from High School.   The difficult teen won’t be going off to college.  The good teen might  consider skipping a class or two, but doesn’t want to get caught. A parent  doesn’t have to make an effort to keep a good kid in school. The good teen  ponders which college they should attend.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen is often withdrawn from family.  They don’t  smile a lot, they don’t get real enthusiastic about much. A parent’s heart breaks  a little more every day.  The good teen is often tells family about things  that happened during their day.  They smile and laugh a lot, and are enthusiastic  about a lot of things. A parent’s heart soars a little more every day.
It’s  easy to love a good child.

So many people give up on the difficult teen.   Write them off as being unworthy of their efforts.  Distrust, because they don’t  understand.  Give up because it’s the easiest thing to do.  So many people  cheer for the good teen.  Try to help them in any way they can. Trust them,  because it’s not hard to do so.  Encourage them to succeed because they seem to  want to.
It’s easy to love a good child.

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It’s easy to love the good  teen.  The parent’s of them, thank God their life is going as planned.  That  they have good children to love. Sure, a parent loves their good teen  unconditionally. But they haven’t really had to put that to the test.  They  haven’t had to test the limits of their understanding and forgiveness.  Their  souls and faith are intact because they haven’t been shattered. Do they realize  that the most important things in life are the little things? The path of the  good teen may not be exactly what a parent would have chosen, but they know that  everything will turn out all right.
It’s not easy to love the difficult teen.  But I thank God for  them, for without the difficult teens, how can we possibly understand what  unconditional love really is?  How would we know just how deeply we can love,  and how easily we can forgive?  How would we otherwise test the endurance of our  souls, the depths of our faith?  How else would we realize just how strong we  really are?  How else would we know what is TRULY important in life.

The path  of the difficult teen may not be what a parent would have chosen, but it is the  hand that they were dealt.

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Dear ( ME )

half full


WE ALL have heard the slogan…..being asked.. is it half empty..or half full..

welp.. have empty is more honest than having someone thinking that it is half full… half full represents that there was something ACTUALLY there but no longer… that is how a great deal of people are in life…relationships…on the job.. with themselves etc.

I guess people do not understand that  it takes real strength to make sure that they ARE NOT FILLED WITH “HOT AIR”………….

Dear ( ME )

Dear ME….


You will be FINE, God is with you even now…..You dont know that? Yes, you are flawed. Yes, sometimes you are wrong and Yes, there are times when you will make mistakes. However, YOU must remain thankful that God has the last say, not man. Here is to having an amazing November 2012.

Dear ( ME )

a new me


Nope I just didnt change on the outside… I focused on what is MORE important >>>> the inside <<<<<….. I am feeling good and things can ONLY get better. New Mind, New Motive, New Ministry, New Mission, New Me….

There has been several things I have surely changed!  Starting and ending with thoughts AND actions which have FREED me indeed!

1. Family – dont allow them to hold you emotionally hostage because you are blood and if you are a parent – plant the seeds and pray for the best

2. Ministry – ministry does not come before family! You cant evangelize in Asia when your family is falling apart in the United States!

3. Church-  it is just a building that was created to do the work of AND for “the Lord”… not man. Do ONLY what God called you to do

4. Education – understand that it is VERY important and should not be put off for ANY reason! I understand everyone does not “like school” but the economy, way of life and country that we live in >>> you must go to school for “SOMETHING”

5. Career – do what you love and not what your family wants you to do becaues you will end up hating it and will have wasted valuable time

6. Personal Goals – if you dont have any then you are a walking corpse! Goals help you wake up in the morning!

7. Spiritual Goals – get some and maintain them! That is the ONLY way to grow your personal / intimate relationship with and in Jesus Christ

8. Relationships – discover EARLY the intention of the one that you are in and tryinng to build (marriage or just sisterhood/ brotherhood)

9. Dating –  ask for wisdom so your actions are not  “of the world”… a kingdom woman should be able to recognize a kingdom (Goldy) man

10. Marriage – it is honorable before God and there is nothing wrong with wanting it but remember that HE THAT FINDETH.. not she findeth

Yup, I think that those 10 main key things in my life about sums about who I am as well as who I was and certainly who I will become……

The 10 things that I named are very essential actually in everyone’s life and it is imperative that we ALL re – evaluate what and who is in our life!

Why do you think the majority of people cannot achieve much in their life? Is it always due to the circumstances? It is their fate? The truth is that most people fail because they do not take their life seriously. Probably you have heard many times that you only have one chance to live your life. But have you really thought about it? How often you do things that give you medium results while you know that you can do better.

One thing is a fact: All people have 24 hours a day and can do whatever they want with them. Nobody has more or less. However, what everyone chooses to do with his/her time can make a difference. If you choose to guide your daily actions to improve yourself and your life then you will create a better life for you. If instead you spent your time not doing actually anything, counting the hours until you finish work, hope to win the lottery, and then probably nothing will be able to change your life.

How seriously you take your life and your success is truly your responsibility. Every morning that the sun rises there are literally millions of other people to co-fight for all the great things that life offers. If you do not get your health, your job, your relationships and your personal development seriously, then very quickly you will fall behind those who do. This is neither fair nor unfair; it is simply the way the system works, it is your choice to be with the winners or losers of life.

The next time you feel that life does not give you what you need, see how seriously you handle your life. Do you give it 100%? Or 60%; only you knows the answer to this question but it is important to ask your self and think how you approach you own life. To change your life for the better you need to give it your maximum efforts.

To take your life more seriously does not mean that you will not be have a good time or fun. On the contrary the goal is to change your thoughts and change your life and become more relaxed and happy. To do that you need to examine your daily and weekly efforts. In life we do not always get what we want but what we deserve. The more you invest in yourself, your work, in your relationships, in your health and personal development, the more your life will return.

A great way to start to implement this idea is at the end of each week to ask yourself if you have done the best you could at all times (at work, in relationships, health and personal development). If the answer is negative then began thinking of ways that you can maximize your efforts next week. Repeat this exercise every week and very soon you will be rewarded by your life.

Train people how to treat you and you will NEVER have regrets on any relationship… dont accept what people give you if YOU are not happy. YOU have to decide if it is worth fixing or is it just a great learning experience! Dont waste too much time thinking about it either!