Current Inspiration. ..

Live ………….WITHOUT Pretending
Love …………WITHOUT Depending

Listen………. WITHOUT Defending
Speak ……….WITHOUT Offending

Work………….WITHOUT  Complaining                                              Create………. WITHOUT  Cheating                                                               Admire……. WITHOUT Coveting                                                                         Give ………..WITHOUT Skimming

Learn………….WITHOUT Regretting                                             Pray……………WITHOUT Ceasing



Dear J.C.C.C.


I love you ….. You are beautiful on the inside that you have NO CHOICE but to shine and be even more beautiful on the outside….. I am indeed so very proud of you and to call you my son….


We have been through so many things together, it is a blessing that we still laugh, giggle, crack jokes and even smile as much as we do. God has used you and showed you how to be strong at a very early age and gratefully you have accepted Jesus Christ into your life.

Thank you for showing me how to extend grace to those who do not deserve it while reminding me DAILY …” WHAT WOULD JESUS DO”….

I am so glad God chose ME to be your mommy! Of course, there is no way that I could not ask for a better son and friend!

God bless you and know that I will always be here for you!

Helping Self...

The POINT v.s. your argument

This is for all of the people that feel that they HAVE to get their point across! That term is something that we all have used but is it really getting us anywhere? YES! It is our goal to just “be heard” when we are talking, arguing or even debating right? Welp, after the FIRST 5 to 10 minutes, if you can tell that YOUR POINT is not getting UNDERSTOOD by your listener, then know that it will turn into a long discussion or a nice long debate. ( in other words, an argument! ) Debate is just a fancy word for argument, remember that!

LOL I indeed used to be one of these types of individuals! Not anymore though….. Yes! My Father was a very, very wise man to tell me these same words…because raising your voice does nothing but display that you either have anger issues and you are not capable of having an intelligent conversation. I tactfully find ways to improve my point so that my point will not only be heard but also understood….. and if I am ineed any good via how my father and uncles taught me >>> I will have also CONVINCED AND SWAYED my audience to believe ……. the very words that are coming out of my mouth!  #teamDADDYteacher

When we’re trying to get a point across to someone else we often think long and hard about what we want to say.  That is the wrong way to go about it.  Instead of focusing on what you want to say to get your point across, you should focus on what you want the other person to hear.  Also deciding to being free from drama should be at least one of your main focal points when having discussions about ANYTHING!

However, to increase your chances of getting your point across, focus more on the receiver than on the sender. Tailor your message to the TYPE of person / personality that you are indeed talking to improve their comprehension. Don’t worry so much about what you want to say as about what you want them to hear and understand……

Trust me, it works!

In the END you want to have your POINT understood v.s. having your argument heard!