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A Little Wisdom –


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The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It’s seen in the width of his arms that circle you. The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It’s in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn’t in how respected he is at work. It’s in how respected he is at home. The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It’s in how tender he touches. The strength of a man isn’t in the hair on his chest. It’s in his Heart … that lies within his chest.
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The strength of a man isn’t how many women he’s loved. It’s in how he can be true to one woman. The strength of a man isn’t in the weight he can lift. It’s in the burdens he can carry.
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Honor, Respect, Faith, Relationship with God, Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends, Giving, Compassion, Love and Commitment are “some of the things” that a Single Mother can show HER SON which can aid to help nurture him to be a GREAT MAN.

Even without a father – being present and producing a CONSISTENT voice and presence in their son’s lives – I often tell some of my girl pals NOT to become bitter when God has already equipped our sons as well as ourselves to “put in the POSITIVE SEEDS” of Life –

Oh by the way….. Women Rock… and Single Moms are Doing Their Thing –

“God got us AND our boys”……….. just STAY being a light, an example of Christian Living –

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E X P E C T


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Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.

Expect your partner to be less than perfect.

Expect your friend to not show up sometimes or be irritating late.

Expect things to go not according to plan because most things do not.

Expect people to be rude sometimes because a great deal of them are.

Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes more than usual.

Expect teenagers  not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes because most teenagers do not.

Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.

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You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.

You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.

Would YOUR Pick Be Accurate?


Okay, like AMERICA…. let’s act as if we are at a carnival or playing a GAME on Facebook…. Which photo would you say is an aggressive person?

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Just Wondering Why –


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Why are women always so catty with one another? I think of all the EXCUSES that people can use of WHY THEY ACT the way that they do and it still makes no sense besides low self esteem.
 
Some naive people could say that its the nature of the FEMALE.  Or maybe even humankind in general is the most warlike of all species, and its even worse if they are fighting to protect something. 
 
Is it that they will fight to the death to protect something they hold dear if they feel the enemy per say, is a threat. Or how about they will fight for the death if the enemy has something they want or need, or if they interfere with their lives.  I am assuming that 2/3 of these scenarios are why most of history’s wars are started.
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There are more GIRLS who have the AGE BRACKETS of women but they are not happy with themselves so although they are 40 years of age – their behaviors clearly place them at a age of a 18 – 21 year old GIRL and not a WOMAN!  ……. ( sad thing is that this has been going on for centuries )
 
 
 
Honestly petty girls who do not know how strong they can eventually be like revenge and getting back at each other because it disgusting makes them feel better about themselves! But then you have the guys who too can be petty at times, however find a way to just hit each other and they are done with it.  Ummm…. and maybe I’m a girl and most of my friends are guys b/c girls like drama!!! LOL – geesh…..
 
One day a majority of women across the world will realize that we are BETTER and STRONGER TOGETHER!!

Boy HaveTimes Changed!


Who would have EVER THOUGHT that you would hardly NEVER be able to tell what “a child’s age is”…….. Scary and Sad all at the same time!

Photo: True shit :. lol

 

Encouraging Myself –


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The difficult teen will do things their own way, in their own time, regardless  of your wishes or schedule.
The good teen will do what you ask, when you ask,  even though they may complain a little.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen will try your patience and understanding every  day.  They will challenge the depths of your love, the core of your soul  numerous times throughout each day, until you wonder if you have any strength  left.  The good teen will try your patience and understanding from time to  time. They will challenge your ability to see just how many extracurricular  activities you can cram into each day, until you wonder if you have any energy  left.
It’s easy to love a good child.

The difficult teen will sneak  out of the house at night to buy drugs, only to have the police knock at your  door at 3am on a work night so you can come down to the station to pick them up.  They’ve been arrested.
The good teen will sneak out of the house at night (on  a weekend) to TP the soccer coach’s house after a big win, only to go back to  the coaches house the next morning.  To help clean up.
It’s easy to love a  good child.

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The difficult teen will skip school, even when you drop them  off out front and watch them walk inside.  No matter how hard a parent tries to  help or force a child, the difficult teen may not graduate from High School.   The difficult teen won’t be going off to college.  The good teen might  consider skipping a class or two, but doesn’t want to get caught. A parent  doesn’t have to make an effort to keep a good kid in school. The good teen  ponders which college they should attend.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen is often withdrawn from family.  They don’t  smile a lot, they don’t get real enthusiastic about much. A parent’s heart breaks  a little more every day.  The good teen is often tells family about things  that happened during their day.  They smile and laugh a lot, and are enthusiastic  about a lot of things. A parent’s heart soars a little more every day.
It’s  easy to love a good child.

So many people give up on the difficult teen.   Write them off as being unworthy of their efforts.  Distrust, because they don’t  understand.  Give up because it’s the easiest thing to do.  So many people  cheer for the good teen.  Try to help them in any way they can. Trust them,  because it’s not hard to do so.  Encourage them to succeed because they seem to  want to.
It’s easy to love a good child.

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It’s easy to love the good  teen.  The parent’s of them, thank God their life is going as planned.  That  they have good children to love. Sure, a parent loves their good teen  unconditionally. But they haven’t really had to put that to the test.  They  haven’t had to test the limits of their understanding and forgiveness.  Their  souls and faith are intact because they haven’t been shattered. Do they realize  that the most important things in life are the little things? The path of the  good teen may not be exactly what a parent would have chosen, but they know that  everything will turn out all right.
It’s not easy to love the difficult teen.  But I thank God for  them, for without the difficult teens, how can we possibly understand what  unconditional love really is?  How would we know just how deeply we can love,  and how easily we can forgive?  How would we otherwise test the endurance of our  souls, the depths of our faith?  How else would we realize just how strong we  really are?  How else would we know what is TRULY important in life.

The path  of the difficult teen may not be what a parent would have chosen, but it is the  hand that they were dealt.

More Things I Tell My Son NOT To Do –


Of course he is a boy so he has a few friends that are skateboarders… BUT – I do not allow him to go over there houses for sleep overs because as you know…. regardless how many times that you WARN your kids about how they can get hurt… it literally goes into 1 ear and runs right out the next!

I swear, some things that BOYS do is just utterly mind boggling….. Why are they such dare devils? Why do they attempt soooo many things that can be damaging to their health? It is very alarming…… im so serious!

I am “” so over “” people telling me and I even hear it from other fathers….. oh let him be a boy…. or boys will be boys.. The kinds of things that teenagers as well as pre – teenagers try to get themselves into these days are rather STRANGE and frightening all at the same time!!

Welp, I will let him be a boy because of course he was born a boy so he is already won!! LOL  – Also, the pranks that these kids come up with is just crazy! I could NOT imagine being a child in this day in age…. I really wish that my almost 11-year-old was going into high school this year…….

Nonetheless, like the picture above, if their son participated in this stunt and it harmed their testicles and PREVENTED them from ever being able to produce sperm to have THEIR OWN CHILD……. then I am sure their tune would change! I am a very pro-active parent and I do not wait for things to happen before I say… I wish that …. If things could have been….. Oh why me…

You do not say about your daughter that…oh she is just being a teenager and has a crush on a boy…let her be! Or do you QUICKLY try to sit her down and talk to her about The BIRDS and The BEES???  (that is MY whole point)

Granted I CANNOT prevent everything…..but the things that you can prevent or at least warn your children about – you should!

Okay – I am done!  LOL