Helping Self...

My Mental Massage


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Just because Thanksgiving Day has passed, there’s no reason to stop being grateful……..

Something that has brought a positive change in my life recently has been the practice of turning negative statements around and finding something in the circumstance for which to be grateful.

“I am thankful for my 11 year old – PRE -teen-ager who complained about doing dishes BEFORE he left to go with his dad, because that means he is at home, not out on the streets somewhere.

“I am thankful for the taxes that I pay, because it means that I’m employed. “I am thankful for the mess I have to clean up at my house, because it means I’m more fortunate than thousands of people around the world. I have a home.
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“I am thankful for the clothes that fit a little too snugly, because it means I have plenty to eat. “I’m thankful for my shadow that watches me work, because it means I’m outside in the sunshine. “I am thankful for my mother’s house SMELLING HORRIBLE of cooking gizzards..chitlings etc… because that means that she is STILL ALIVE to drive me insane of eating these nasty things and making my clothes stink” LOL
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“I’m thankful for my oldest son who is in college being moody over the last few weeks but he makes me smile everytime he CHOOSES to text and call me. Also for my daughter being even MORE moodier but smiles when she emails me.

“I’m thankful for all the complaining about government and politics, because it reminds me I live in a country that allows me freedom of speech. “I’m thankful for the parking spot I found all the way at the end of the lot, because it means I have the strength and ability to walk the distance.

“I’m thankful for my heating bill, because it means I am warm. “I’m thankful for the lady behind me in church who sings off-key, because it means I am blessed with the gift of hearing. “I’m thankful for the pile of laundry that reminds me that I — and my family — have plenty of clothes to wear.

“I’m thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I’m capable of working hard and making a contribution to the lives of others. “I’m thankful each day when the alarm goes off, and I hear it, because it means I’m still alive. There is still time to serve God and others. There are still opportunities to make a difference.

“Each day is a gift. Each burden holds a blessing, and every moment of life offers an opportunity that will come only once in a lifetime.

“I am thankful — just because — I am.”

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Women's Stuff

For Mom’s Only –


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Many women feel guilty when they take a break for themselves, but that may be a dangerous thing. If you never have any time except reactive time — things you must do for others — you don’t have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time.

I have been reading up on symptoms and have seen that your brain can have trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises. If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that’s not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.

Many women believe that taking time for yourself is a selfish thing to do.  In fact, the opposite is true:  if you are not at your peak, you cannot take care of others.  I think new moms AND single mothers are especially prone not to take ME time.  They believe ‘the baby’ …..”the kids”…takes precedence over all of their lives, and they must bow to their every whim. 
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But the thing is, that is exhausting, and if you are exhausted, you cannot be a good mom. I have come to a cease halt because I HAVE BECOME VERY EXHAUSTED and this week, I thought that I would literally just keel over from tiredness!

On an airplane, parents are taught to put the mask on themselves first then to place the mask on their kids.  This is because if they have trouble getting the mask on their children, both the parent and the child could die because neither got their mask on properly. 

I believe this applies to life as well:  you have to take care of yourself first!!! I may be VERY LATE just now discovering to put ME FIRST but it is better late than never!
Taking time for yourself needs to be just that:  a few hours where you are not interrupted or wondering when the children are going to need something next.  It needs to be something you do completely for yourself.  Going grocery shopping away from the kids does not count…’me time’ must be something you like to do and you do only for yourself.
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Think about taking a class you’ve always wanted to take, or taking time out to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, or even just sleeping in.

Turn off the cell phone, and inform everyone that you are not to be disturbed, and then follow through with that:  do not allow anyone to disturb you.  The best way to do this is to get away from the kids and husband and go somewhere else. 

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My son now is used to going away to camp at least a few times a year.

How about Don’t take the kids with you, just go somewhere and unwind!! But do it WITH NO KIDS!! I have taken it a step further to send my son to camp for 4 weeks over the summer. One week in June, two weeks in July and one week in August. They are all split apart of course so we can still bond and have our time BUT I have made a very conscious decision to put me first going forward!

I want to LIVE! but live well..be happy..be healthy & remain whole!

Helping Self...

A Few Positive Nuggets


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Life is a road that some try to get off of too quickly instead of staying the course and learn what needs to learned for their own Personal Process (s). Life is a beautiful thing and is something that plenty of people in the graveyard wish they could have back / again!!!

Change your thoughts, change your conversation and change your life…There may still be struggles but even those will be viewed as an opportunity for God to perform a miracle on your behalf..

Don’t go through life….but grow through life. Sometime in your journey you will outgrow some people. Don’t try to fix or repair them….just keep on growing and keep on going.
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We should maintain a variety of friends or family members that have different outlooks on life than we do. We cannot and certainly should not be so narrow minded to think that we are always correct.

You will be shocked to know that regardless how smart we think that we are, there will be plenty of times in where we wol be wrong in several situations!!!
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Finally, surround yourself with people who tell you that you are not alone and they are willing to walk with you as you transition to where God is taking you…There is strength in numbers…You are not alone…

Inspiration

Monday Motivations!


Today…lets crave to do better….inspire….but most importantly CHANGE….All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them. We must never be satisfied with what you achieve, because it all pales in comparison with what you are capable of doing in the future! However, in everything that you do, make sure that YOU do it with all of your power , your mind , strength and your soul , you will never go wrong!

Now the cool conversations that I have with my amazing kid!! We talked about Life’s challenges and how they are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are!  It is surmounting difficulties that makes heroes and Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict. Does my son understand… not everything as a whole ” some days ” but overall he does… He is smart and intelligent and wants to do right!

Overall, we both understand that  motivation is like food for the brain. You cannot get enough in one sitting. It needs continual and regular top ups.

Helping Self...

My Monday Random –


It’s very easy for us to come up with reasons why we should not ask God for things in prayer. As Christians, we should seek the will of God in all things. Perhaps we should only pray for God’s will and nothing else, for what if what we ask for is contrary to His will?

If is is not God’s will, we should not want it, for it cannot be good. In fact, what is the point in asking for anything? If He wants to give it to us, He will. We cannot change God’s mind or affect His will in any way.

Asking God for things we need is closely associated with humility. God wants us to accomplish great things for His glory and for the Kingdom.

If we decide to do this on our own, we may very well do some good work, but it will be nothing compared to what we can accomplish if we permit God’s Spirit to work through us. Pride is a problem for many of us and it gets in the way whenever we think, “I don’t want help. I want to do this on my own.

” If this is our attitude, God obliges us and leaves us to our own destiny. However, if we can overcome our pride, submit to God and ask for His help, much greater things can be accomplished.