Parenting

Mothers and Sons


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As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
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However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things…  BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . .  I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
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When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…

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Dear ( ME )

Is Being Bored A Bad Thing?


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One day, I will get a change to do this!! I YES! By the looks of the photo above, I am thinking that being bored would be a GREAT IDEA for me! I want to know what it will feel like not to have any meetings to go to via church, attend any church nightly services, political things, Parent Teacher Conferences, my son won’t have to go to baseballl, basketball or soccer practice – When that day happens – I will just post a blog with a huge smile on my face!

Some people complain about being bored or super bored…. Well listen, what does that FEEL LIKE? Please let me try it! I don’t want to hear a cell phone ringing  ( and I have 3 that I use for different things ) I don’t want to hear my home telephone ring, I wont check any emails and I will tell my son to even cut off his cell phone and to just go in his room and read a book!

Helping Self...

Making Time


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It is already Thursday….. So ask yourself if you have YET placed aside any time for yourself? If not, then you need to re – evaluate and re – adjust your schedule weekly. How can it already be Thursday morning and you have spent EVERY MOMENT focusing on other things and people but you yet again you obviously IGNORED YOURSELF?

How about start caring about yourself a little bit more than you are doing? You will LOVE yourself for it but you will then KICK YOURSELF after you see / realize how much that you needed it and you should have been “taking care of you”…….

During the time you take for yourself, look at your goals and what you want to do with your life. Think about your goals and how you are going to reach them. Think about the things that make you happy and think about what you are going to do to ensure you reach your goals. Taking time for yourself is a lot about goal setting because you can sit back and determine what goals you want to reach and how you are going to reach each of those goals.

Talk to your friends and family and let them know that you are taking time for yourself. Tell them that this time is for your personal reflection and that means no interruptions. Do not take phone calls from anyone and ensure those in your house know to leave you alone.

During your time, turn off the television, turn off the computer and sit down and surely let’s NOT FORGET to cut off that incredibly distracting CELL PHONE!! LOL

This is so you can be in your own mind. This keeps distractions from becoming a problem and it keeps you from worrying about things, or thinking about anything beyond what you need to.

Personal development will change your life but you need to make time for it and that means making time for yourself. Do not skimp on time for yourself because you want to ensure that you do everything right and reach the goals you want. Time for yourself allows you to think, plan and implement towards that end.

Women's Stuff

For Mom’s Only –


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Many women feel guilty when they take a break for themselves, but that may be a dangerous thing. If you never have any time except reactive time — things you must do for others — you don’t have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time.

I have been reading up on symptoms and have seen that your brain can have trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises. If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that’s not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.

Many women believe that taking time for yourself is a selfish thing to do.  In fact, the opposite is true:  if you are not at your peak, you cannot take care of others.  I think new moms AND single mothers are especially prone not to take ME time.  They believe ‘the baby’ …..”the kids”…takes precedence over all of their lives, and they must bow to their every whim. 
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But the thing is, that is exhausting, and if you are exhausted, you cannot be a good mom. I have come to a cease halt because I HAVE BECOME VERY EXHAUSTED and this week, I thought that I would literally just keel over from tiredness!

On an airplane, parents are taught to put the mask on themselves first then to place the mask on their kids.  This is because if they have trouble getting the mask on their children, both the parent and the child could die because neither got their mask on properly. 

I believe this applies to life as well:  you have to take care of yourself first!!! I may be VERY LATE just now discovering to put ME FIRST but it is better late than never!
Taking time for yourself needs to be just that:  a few hours where you are not interrupted or wondering when the children are going to need something next.  It needs to be something you do completely for yourself.  Going grocery shopping away from the kids does not count…’me time’ must be something you like to do and you do only for yourself.
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Think about taking a class you’ve always wanted to take, or taking time out to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, or even just sleeping in.

Turn off the cell phone, and inform everyone that you are not to be disturbed, and then follow through with that:  do not allow anyone to disturb you.  The best way to do this is to get away from the kids and husband and go somewhere else. 

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My son now is used to going away to camp at least a few times a year.

How about Don’t take the kids with you, just go somewhere and unwind!! But do it WITH NO KIDS!! I have taken it a step further to send my son to camp for 4 weeks over the summer. One week in June, two weeks in July and one week in August. They are all split apart of course so we can still bond and have our time BUT I have made a very conscious decision to put me first going forward!

I want to LIVE! but live well..be happy..be healthy & remain whole!

Women's Stuff

My LIFE…… in a nutshell


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When women become MOTHERS…..sometimes it seems as if “our lives” stop as well…… Although being a good and productive mother is very important… However, losing ourselves in “any role” is not good if it leaves US drowning..

Welp, it is time to change the S into a DIFFERENT letter of our choice! LOL

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My youngest will be 11 years old in a few weeks and GOD KNOW and everyone else knows that I love my son dearly….. However, over the last month..I have advised him AFTER my own self.. ( lol ) that things would be a little different in our lives…. He smiled and laughed but honey ..he has NO IDEA…..
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Over the last three summers I have been sending him away to different camps and I have spaced them out for the sake of us BOTH missing one another..LOL However, last summer…I indeed “prepped my baby” to be gone 3 times… and he stated that he did not mind going away but it was different not seeing me so often…. Then he stated, he just does not want to be gone for a WHOLE MONTH at a time – which I understand and I would not do that either…
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I would miss him too much myself!! But baby… this summer.. >BYE! He leaves for the FIRST camp in 2 days and comes back Sunday early afternoon..

Then GONE twice in June for two weeks then GONE once in July for one week and then GONE once in August for a week. Do you hear me singing? So having a week off every month so I can just BREATH and he can go play, have fun in the surroundings of good Christian Camps… He indeed is a good boy but, I need air!
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Give me a minute…. I am working on another week trip right before the school year starts! LOL

Having your own time is crucial…….to maintain your happiness / sanity!