Inspiration

Before June 2013


I have indeed planned to visit all of these places before June 2013….. I will…I can and I must…

Solo me falta NYC =/

I have lived in so many states… that picking up and going is surely not an option for me. I like to think of myself maybe as a cavalier so to speak… Pick and go..Pick up and move in an INSTANT!

I have talked and shared LONG stories with people who have traveled…..relocated a few times as well as people who have NEVER lived outside of the same state, never traveled or even driven across the county borders of their municiplalities….. and I HAVE TO TELL YOU that the mind sets are conversations are totatlly different! I wish that EVERYONE would desire to shift their life just a little because the world is not only a big place but it is indeed HUGE / MASSIVE!

Explore it so that you can enjoy it…..BEFORE you die off this earth!

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Parenting

Traveling –


Welp, we are in the car AGAIN and headed to happiness! This boy loves to travel – I dont care where the destination is..he just wants to get in the car and GO!!  This boy even packs MORE than I do and all I do is giggle and ask myself what in the world did Icreate? He is super neat and a tad bit OVERLY anal when it comes to how his things are folded in his suitcase – like really Jared? Hey things could be worse – he could be a sloppy kid! LOL

Kids learn to be flexible while traveling AND FLEXIBILITY is something this kid has..

There are plenty of reasons why travel is good for kids. Whether you are traveling for a two-week vacation or heading out for a multi-year vagabonding lifestyle, travel is good.

Travel helps kids learn the world is a wonderful place. In today’s society where most people fear others, travel helps children learn that the vast majority of people in our world are kind and generous people who will go the extra mile to help a fellow human.

Travel helps kids develop communication skills. As they travel amongst various cultures, they’ll communicate with people of all ages and in many languages. Children will pick up foreign languages and perfect the fine art of sign language when they can’t get their message across with words. Now, since he talks with his hands like his mother – this should be easy! LOL

Travel broadens kids’ education. There’s nothing like being a place to learn about that place. The history and culture come alive when you see it being lived. Textbooks are great resources, but don’t come close to replicating the experience of actually being there and being able to see, hear, smell, taste, and touch it…. ( an my son touches EVERYTHING!! even at 10 )

He recently told me that he wanted to visit Asia – I said man….for all of this lets just move there! We BOTH are like cavaliers and will pick up and just “go with the flow” anywhere and anytime!

Travel helps kids become more flexible and to adapt to changes easier. We all know the old adage that even the best laid plans will go awry. While traveling, plans change daily – minute by minute at times – and kids need to adapt. Through those experiences they learn that things will be OK, even if they aren’t what was expected.

Helping Self...

Timing-


Geesh!, It has been forever since I have been on –  but I have been so busy that I could hardly almost focus some days! Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much has been going on and I am STILL trying to figure out what to do “with it all”…….There is never enough time in the day or I am just trying to do just way too- too too much!

Whether I am Relocating or just moving to a different neighborhood, it seems to always be like a mini major mile stone!  The only thing that keeps me coming in and out of Pennsylvania is my mother – nothing more and nothing less…. There are other siblings but no one “looks after her” like I do and she knows that as well. So eventually moving to either one of those two coutnries that I used to blog about for months will have to be placed on hold.

 

Nonetheless, always “jumping in and out of the car” and going from state to state is something that seems to be very tiresome but it something that I will continue to do “for my mom”…. In no way, shape or form am I trying to kill her off or wish her dead but I will certainly stay close to Pennsylvania driving distance as long as she is alive!

I have visited New Jersey and loved a great deal of the areas like Alpine! Whew Jesus, is it so beautiful there!!! I have been going back and forth via the Maryland, Virginia and D.C. area for the last few years and it takes a TOLL on the body! It is so amazing that my son manages to have NEVER missed a day of school and I am grateful for that! He is so amazing… he does not care how often we just get up and go as long as he is with me he seems to stay happy! LOL

Oh also, as long as one of his friends gets to tag along as well, he stays busy with activities and he gets to see his grandmother every week he has no complaints! ( thank God )

Parenting

Interesting Sunday –


 

Children’s Church was not too fun ACCORDING to my son today…. Surely it was basically boring to him and felt as if I was making him do 00 sit ups when I chose to take him to our “back up church ” LOL

I know that he just misses his “main church“…. I know sounds crazy right! He has two churches… One is in the city and the other is in the suburbs via where we reside at and of course – the one that he feels connected to and the one that I ALSO LOVE is in the city! UGGGHHH…. Sometimes, I just dont feel like driving to the city 4 times a week! Traffic….Traffic..and MORE Traffic is draining!

Nonetheless, I try to make the BEST of it for him when we cant seem to get to “his main church” 1 out of the 3 days that he LOVES to attend there… Boy oh boy – what we do for our babies! I surely wish that they had the “types of churches” that we both wanted – … ya know – a little bit of this and a little bit of that! LOL Thank goodness that God is indeed everywhere!

Parenting

Yesterday!!!


YESTERDAY!!!! ………  The enemy almost had me jacked up!  Yesterday I wanted to flip out!!! Yesterday I so needed my mother!!! Yesterday I needed a hug from my sister!! Yesterday I wanted to choke my son!! Yesterday I felt like not wanting to be my son’s mother!!!!! Yesterday I needed God to take the pain away!! The bitterness surely was on its way and I am glad that God “blocked it”…… ( that is a true blessing )

Yesterday I was so upset that I could not even cry!!!! Yesterday, God allowed me to go through a very STRONG AND STORMY situation and he then gave me the peace that I needed and allowed me to have and maintain victory over the situation!

Yesterday God reminded me that I have to regroup and refocus to keep my sanity…. Yesterday God advised me that He allowed all of these things that I felt were so bad to transpire… Yesterday God said.. all is well.

OH GOD!!! Is all that I kept saying out loud!I almost felt as if I was INDEED going to lose my mind and the ONLY thing that can shift me toward that direction is when it comes to “family matters/ situations”…..

Welp guess what! The enemy knows that as well so trust me when I tell you that he works in OVERTIME and OVERDRIVE in that area because he loves to see me breakdown…..

Listen as a parent – your kids will surely take “you there” if and when you allow then…..  My kids ….my teenage twins have really put me through it since they were 12 1/2 years old and ask me if things has gotten any better?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm… umm yeah like maybe like 3 months out of EVERY year that has passed since they have been that age! OH MY GOODNESS – HELP ME! For my teenage ungrateful kids to ONLY desire to reach out when it is a FINANCIAL thing is a sad thing.

It is a HORRIBLE….HORRID….HORRIFIC….UNBEARBALE thing to try and raise your children with another parent who has 100% DIFFERENT WAY of raising them but they are in their care. AGONY I tell you…COMPLETE AND STRAIGHT agony!

Of course children “rather”  sway toward the mind set of the parent and their family that allows things to be a bit easier on them….. Mother or not – I have feelings and indeed to SEE that they do not care about that but care ONLY the feelings that comes along with my pocket book.

The children also have to take blame in the things that they have done as well as have not done through out this horrid process as well… Allowing his father to think “one way” when it is not the truth and my son not speaking up is basically “co – signing” with what the interperation of me in situations.

I have CARED what my teenage kids as well as their father and family have felt about me via parenting LONG ENOUGH…… at this point in my life I feel soo empowered to move on!

My teenage kids will turn 19 this July and I have not washed my hands of “them” but I am indeed allowing LIFE to take its course! I will continue to pray on their behalf but nothing more and nothing less…… I know that I am not the only mother who has NO RELATIONSHIP with their kids father but it is sad that two parents cannot come together and raise their kids.

I do not beleive in allowing kids “to run the show” and the course of the relationship styles of the parents! Well that is what has BEEN HAPPENEING over the years and of course I am the bad guy because I have ALWAYS stood my motherly / Christian ground! It does not feel good while it is working but I know that it is working for MY GOOD.

Praying that God will save my kids! No wait…. God will save them! So my prayer is that they DESIRE and CHOOSE to become and maintain their salvation with The Lord! It is THEIR choice…..

I feel so much better thanks to waiting patiently to hear the voice of The Lord speak to me…. I am well… all is well and I have peace within “again”….

Honor your parents – that is the Holy Scriptures and no success will come until they can learn to honor! Things may look good and feel good but trust me, God will “shut it down” when people least expect it. You cannot go through life not doing what you are supposed to do and feel that you are going to reap the harvest of The Lord!