Cried All Afternoon

Okay – I am OVER my venting rampage that I went through earlier today – BUT my morning and afternoon was just a big ball of emotion…… Being a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager allows me to meet and connect with a diverse group of people… I teach them things BUT I also learn from them too!

Over the last 3 years I have stayed in consistent contact with only two clients- Jamie and Deanna. In social services, you are taught / trained not to have any connections but it is hard NOT TO CARE when you genuinely care.

Nonetheless, these two women are no longer a part of the program that I work in so at “this point” it is alright.. Furthermore, these two women specifically were God Chosen and not Valarie Chosen and how our relationship has been is great.

Nonetheless, my Jamie ( Jamester ) is what I affectionately call her always like for me to meet her friends because she considers me like her spiritual counselor, friend and big sister. Its an honor and we all get together and talk about LIFE and of course the things of CHRIST……. I believe that REAL MINISTRY is outside of the 4 – 8 walls of the church!

Well this is where this PARTICULAR story gets good then great then bad……. Okay I met a young girl named Nicole but her nick name is SUNSHINE……. We talked about God and his purpose and this girl was ON FIRE FOR GOD ..Do you hear me!!! I mean we started preaching to each other and praying then prophesying and everything..

I told her AT THAT VERY MOMENT that God has connected us and although she is Jesus Follower, she is supposed to come to church with me and IMMEDIATELY she said I would LOVE TO and we planned to meet on Sunday morning at 830 am. I met her on a Friday and we were going to church that Sunday – We had such an amazing Spiritual Connection…it was sooo REFRESHING…. and God was in every aspect of our converstaions…..

Jamie called me and text me saying to call her that it was an emergency… I was praying that she was not in the process of relapsing back on drugs…. So I prayed as I was getting dressed to leave the house to start my full day of running around….. I said to myself.. CALL HER LATER ….she calls you all the time and you guys talk all the time…. God said dont answer the phone but call her back WHEN I GET IN THE CAR……. I  am saying…ok Lord….

I finally call Jamester back and she advises me that SUNSHINE DIED LAST NIGHT IN A CAR ACCIDENT!!

This is her below in the photo…..Nicole Albright 22 Years Old a.k.a. Sunshine


We first met and took this photo  11 – 29 – 2013

I took her to church 12 – 1 – 2013

She died in car accident 12-8-2013

Links to her story.. Please keep her family lifted in prayer …God Bless


The Mindset of Some Cultures


Although this is a cartoon BUT there is truth all through it. I mean really, which headstone is Trayvon Martin? Martin Luther King Jr.? Emmett Till? Darrell Turner Jr? and thousands of other black INNOCENT males? Huh?

Point is that I do not EVER want any of these tombstones to be be connected to or be a representative for anyone who did no wrong to be there.

Let alone yet ANOTHER “racial profile” black male..  Let alone either one if MY OWN sons!


Co – Parenting 101


REALIZE that you have to do it!

It is important and a healthy act towards any type of surface friendship that you can keep up with your child’s father.

My son will 11 next week and his father has FINALLY seen the light and really trying to do better……..(fingers crossed)

First and foremost you have your children in common. Raising them and helping them to grow into well-adjusted adults should be what you have in common and should be the main goal for both of you.

You want them to feel safe and secure and the best way to do this is by keeping your relationship with your ex husband friendly and non-confrontational to keep some of the stress away from your children.

In the blending of households and the juggling of visitations, kids often feel they have no rights. In some ways this is true, because the adults are making so many decisions on behalf of the child. Remember that your child loves the other parent. When a parent complains about the other parent, that can set a negative tone, even if what you are saying is true.To reduce their feelings of helplessness, give the child as much control as you can over the little things. There is a lot of give-and-take that happens in families. TRY to cooperate with your ex to accommodate changes in schedules and activities, and honor the child’s preferences when you can.

It is not mandatory but DO MAKE EVERY ATTEMPT to do so if he has shown consideration as well because it is nice to be nice right???
Such flexibility establishes a good co-parenting pattern. Most mother’s make all the sacrifices but hopefully there are SOME FATHERS who are actually willing to sacrifices as well.
Hopefully the fathers can see that they too are important in the process!
Helping Self...

Just Say Amen – and Move on….


It is sad that it is the truth……..not enough people are BOLD enough to re-track what transpired with this piece of legislation. It took ONE woman’s voice / her opinion on what she DID NOT like to take prayer out of school.

However, there seems to be thousands of people who disagree with taking prayers out of school but there were no MARCHES, NO RALLIES, NO SOCIAL MEDIA OUTBURSTS etc.

Interesting, is it not?


Recognize It….

Regardless if it is men on men …..female on female …..male on female or female on male –

October is The National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Just stop it….#that’sall 


Silence# can kill..steal & destroy…..

Why do people act as if being / staying quiet is okay? Especially when they know that their silence is doing more harm than just simply an embarrassment….Silence has a powerful capability of being a huge silent killer to be frank.

It can kill the chances of someone getting FREE from bondage…. ( not sharing your testimony etc. ) It can steal someone’s ability for reconciliation….It can destroy someone’s ability to live what society calls a normal life predicated on the depth of hurt that the SILENCE caused… ( rape, molestation etc.. )

It took a national sex pedophile scheme in the state of Pennsylvania to have people realize that there are moments that Silence indeeds kills and / or hurts the innocent!

Having the mind set of not wanting to get involved does not display the mere act of compassion…..My parenrs always raised me to think of the person in need as if it was my own mother, father, grandparents, sister, brother etc..

be brave,take the FIRST step and please indeed speak up….you never will know how many lives…souls you may be saving……

Just know your voice is worth it and needed… sincerely only takes 1 to start the change and get things moving forward for a revolution…… Dont believe me? Remember Rosa Parks? okay….. one day YOU TOO, will be tired and will choose that day and moment to start your own revolution…..

You have to….. because your worth it…. your generation…. your family…. the people that came BEFORE you… the people that will come AFTER you will have their part in HISTORY..  but will you?