Women's Stuff

Dear Lovely Women –


Ladies: Just because a man says nice things, doesn’t mean that he is a nice person. Just because a man says all of the “right” things doesn’t mean that he is “right” for you. My mother used to say “What a person says means nothing, but what a person does means everything.”
ALWAYS remember that…..

Just because you were born a “woman,” doesn’t make you a “lady.”
The worst thing that the enemy could have ever done was attack you, lie on you, hit you, try to destroy you, but left you alive. The devil thought he had you, but you got a way. He should have killed you when he had a chance.
Now you are witness. Your testimony of victory is going to help somebody else overcome. They overcame by the blood of the Lamb and the words of their testimony.
It may not be easy, but it’s worth it.

A “Peaceful” Message –

Peacefulness is an inner sense of calm – it comes from becoming still – in order to reflect and meditate on our inner wisdom and receive answers. A peaceful heart is one that is free from worry and trouble. It’s becoming quiet so we can look at things quietly so we can more clearly understand them and thus come up with creative solutions. It is learning to live in the present.

There are hundreds of tasks we feel we must accomplish in the day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, as do the grains of sand passing through the narrow neck of the hourglass, then we are bound to break our own physical
 and mental structure.

Peace comes from living in the moment and looking for the good in others. Peacefulness comes from facing our fears and letting them, trust that things will turn out all right. Peacefulness is also a way of approaching conflict with others so no one is made wrong. Everyone wins because we then work to find a peaceful solution.

If half a century of living has taught me anything at all, it has taught me that nothing can bring you peace but yourself. God granted us the ability to CHOOSE what and who we want in our “living space” mental space….spiritual space….physical space…and emotional space.

The SOLUTION is this >>> stop making room for things that DON’T matter!


Trusting –

Trust the Lord and believe He can do anything that He says He can do by His Word. He is the only one we can turn to, the only one we can TRUST & and the only one who answers prayers. Your FAITH in Him is the KEY to your breakthrough. He says you can do all things through Him, but this can only happen when you have an INTIMATE relationship with Him, which begins by FAITH.
Hear more of His WORD and …FAITH will come. Faith is the SHIELD that extinguishes all the flaming arrows of the evil one_Eph 6:16. More and more of God‘s WORD means a thicker shield which makes more difficult for the enemy to attack you. Your MIND is the battle ground that the enemy channels his attacks. We live in FEAR because all we hear is what men are saying about us.
 Make a ‘U’ turn today and hear what GOD is saying concerning you, your family, your business, your ministry & the generation after you. This will build your FAITH, making you stronger and stronger and stronger……..

Dear ( ME )

Encouragement Random-

Good Morning WORLD……. Today is a new day that none of us has ever seen…. so what are YOU going to do with it!! Positivity is KEY — Because today is surely not promised to any of us so I have started dancing until my feet hurts… laughing until my side aches…..

I have learned that mistakes are meant to be learned from and NOT repeating… so the remaining years that I may be graced with will be full of  less regrets as possible….

My struggles have proved for me to have remained strong and powerful…. practical and spiritual….I am indeed a gift and choose to make God proud!

Allowing God to work on me has been a painful yet joyful experience all at the same time…. LOL – Humility does not mean that I think less of MYSELF….. it just means that I have learned to think of myself less so that I can think of OTHERS!

Dear ( ME )

This Morning –

Trayvon Martin is now FIGURATIVELY wearing a brand new HOODIE! 

Regardless if any child is wearing a hoodie….a hat…sanging pants ( so disgusting ) or certain colors… Violence via black males in America has PROVEN to be way out of control.

This morning I woke up thinking of my own 18 1/2 year old twins……

This morning I woke up thinking  about my own 9 1/2 year old son…

I woke up thinking that although I love the Lord and I indeed want to make it into Heaven that I do NOT want to bury any of my children……

I do not want them to see the Lord anytime soon….

Life is short…Life is precious… Life is a gift…..Life is a blessing..

I want my children to live for God and enjoy life and not worry about them leaving this world early let alone tragically.



We all have previously or some still may be in relationships, groups, church, organizations etc. that causes you to constantly go up and down, round and round and I am here to tell you that you need to put an END to the cycle because it WON’T stop until YOU “choose” to get off the ride.  Obligation can be a MONSTER…. if you let it!

This is what I used to allow my family to do to me for years…….. Some people in ministry as well but Thank God for being FREE!!  I must say – Freedom looks good on me!

Yo yo yo yo yooooo

There is nothing wrong with trying to be the peace maker and desiring for your whole family to come together in harmony…. However, that is not the case all the time and it is NOT just about timing but the individuals HAVE TO WANT to come together “for the good” as well!

I Love The Coleman Family and I am SURE that my family is one of many families around the world have crazy issues but I can “start off” by trying to fix my own FIRST!


darrell turner

Gateway Senior High School Football Team, Monroeville, Pennsylvania

Looking at this picture made me cry almost instantly…… the young boy  who is standing looking down at his fellow Gateway Gators football team was shot and killed June 24, 2011. ( on my brother’s birthday at that ) I can still hear the nervousness in my son’s voice when he called me in the midst of it going on…


They were going to a football camp and was passing through Durham, North Carolina and God Darrell home…..

it makes me soo sad because it felt of course that he was taken in such a horrid way….and then way too soon… for him to get killed behind racism just makes me CRINGE…………..

i miss my own 18 1/2 year old son….. seeing some of his friends reminds me of how it is soo hard trying to raise kids when BOTH parents dont even share some of the same morals, values, ethics, stances, and beliefs..

because of my strong uncompromsing stand that i take in my Christian faith…. it has deemed to be too much for my son and it is hurtful….. i am not strict but i do have structure which promotes a different type of lifestyle that he chose not to have with me….

his friend darell turner jr. was such a blessing to not just myself but to my 9 year old as well…  darrell treated my son jared like a brother that he never had even though his blood brother was staying with us temporarily…

im remembering when i took my son jaylen, darrell and little jared to walmart and jaylen jumped into a handicapped cart and started riding around the store and he saw my face and said mom val, he has to get used to living with you and your rules that is all and then he asked me if i raised him in the church! LOL… i said yes little darrell i did, and he said well you should really have nothing to worry about….

whew that sticks to me til this day and it gives me HOPE that things will indeed get better…

we make our own choices in life and sometimes things are in God’s timing… so i will pray for continued peace within my own family as well as the mourning hearts that are missing Darrell Mook Turner Jr. he was such a loving boy who has touched the hearts of many.