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Today’s Wednesday Babble


  • Just because someone says they don’t like something about you doesn’t mean it’s bad or you need to change it. Depending on what it is; often it’s a matter of preference.
  • Don’t feel the need to do something spectacular or out of the ordinary to be an individual, all you need to show is who YOU are inside.
  • Change is a constant. So changing who you are over time is inevitable, and is always likely to be a good thing if you’ve stayed informed, relevant, and clued in to the world around you and have allowed your personal development to be a top priority in your life.
  • Even if your friends seem different, don’t hold back. Be yourself and if they don’t accept you they aren’t your real friends.
  • If you need to be yourself, do what your heart tells you to do, say what you feel deep inside.If people bully you, you don’t have to bully them back, just turn around and ignore them. Do what you want to do now it doesn’t mean that you should go insane.Be sane and always put a smile on your face.
  • Striving to be something you’re not can be unhealthy when it involves improving academic, sport, and social interactions skills. It can be highly harmful when you’re striving to “be like” someone else just to have their popularity, appearance, and attitudes rub off on you. Keep unique by keeping your perspective focused on building your strengths through the inspiration of others, not through becoming like them.
  • Fads and trends are a personal decision. While some people avoid them like the plague in the name of “individualism”, it doesn’t mean you’re not being yourself when you choose to follow a trend. It’s all about what you want.
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Dear ( ME )

Time 4 Yourself –


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If you feel frustrated, tired, overwhelmed or just out of balance with yourself, maybe it’s because you don’t make time for yourself. Change your ways. Practice some self-care.

It often seems that our days are engulfed in a myriad of tasks. Today we have many responsibilities and many roles – spouse, parent, sibling, child, friend, and career worker.
Do you find you lose yourself in your relationships, in your nurturing roles, and in the busyness of life? Does it seem like your life has become a series of tasks to complete, rather than moments to enjoy? We often get so caught up in the DOING that we forget to BE.
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Usually the first thing to go in this whirlwind of activity is time for ourselves. Lack of time for ourselves often leads to feeling frustrated, tired, overwhelmed and out of balance. Without this time for self, we lose sight of what’s important to us and of what we need to be our best.

If you are feeling like life is out of control, that you are undervalued, that you are too busy, or if you put the needs of others consistently before your own, then it is time to create some time and space for yourself. Taking time for yourself allows you to renew, heal, and create reserves of energy and peace. Honoring yourself enables you to discover your truth, access your creativity and experience a sense of peace, wholeness, purpose, and balance.
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Taking time for yourself is really about Self-Care and is an extremely important part to creating the life you want. It is about honoring yourself and connecting with yourself. Taking care of yourself is one of the first steps on the journey of discovering your truth and accessing your creativity. When you take time for yourself it allows you to stop doing for awhile and to just BE.

It is in the Being where your power lies. You automatically raise your standards and capabilities and create potential and possibility in your life. When you honour and nurture yourself you can hear your inner voice much more clearly – you can hear your own truth and this connection enables you to live authentically.

Inspiration

Mental Note


 

Learn not to slip on your own mistakes!

Choose wisely and seek good counsel so that you will not have to repeat the same things over and over again. We all should be just a little bit tired by now at this point in our lives of repeating SILLY things that indeed could have been prevented.

Do not worry about anyone else slipping if your own foundation is NOT sturdy enough to keep you from slipping and falling –

Helping Self...

A Little Random – ness


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Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. I don’t like myself, I’m crazy about myself. Do you want to meet the love of your life? Continue to Look in the mirror!!!!
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Our first and last love is – self-love WE ALL have to start and Plant our own garden (s) and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.  If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbor.

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Dont forget that Self-love seems so often unrequited……………If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance…..
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You must love yourself before  you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.  The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less…….. and how about you need to Love yourself instead of abusing yourself!!!!! Know that you are WONDERFULLY MADE!

Helping Self...

Making Time


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It is already Thursday….. So ask yourself if you have YET placed aside any time for yourself? If not, then you need to re – evaluate and re – adjust your schedule weekly. How can it already be Thursday morning and you have spent EVERY MOMENT focusing on other things and people but you yet again you obviously IGNORED YOURSELF?

How about start caring about yourself a little bit more than you are doing? You will LOVE yourself for it but you will then KICK YOURSELF after you see / realize how much that you needed it and you should have been “taking care of you”…….

During the time you take for yourself, look at your goals and what you want to do with your life. Think about your goals and how you are going to reach them. Think about the things that make you happy and think about what you are going to do to ensure you reach your goals. Taking time for yourself is a lot about goal setting because you can sit back and determine what goals you want to reach and how you are going to reach each of those goals.

Talk to your friends and family and let them know that you are taking time for yourself. Tell them that this time is for your personal reflection and that means no interruptions. Do not take phone calls from anyone and ensure those in your house know to leave you alone.

During your time, turn off the television, turn off the computer and sit down and surely let’s NOT FORGET to cut off that incredibly distracting CELL PHONE!! LOL

This is so you can be in your own mind. This keeps distractions from becoming a problem and it keeps you from worrying about things, or thinking about anything beyond what you need to.

Personal development will change your life but you need to make time for it and that means making time for yourself. Do not skimp on time for yourself because you want to ensure that you do everything right and reach the goals you want. Time for yourself allows you to think, plan and implement towards that end.

Women's Stuff

For Mom’s Only –


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Many women feel guilty when they take a break for themselves, but that may be a dangerous thing. If you never have any time except reactive time — things you must do for others — you don’t have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time.

I have been reading up on symptoms and have seen that your brain can have trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises. If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that’s not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.

Many women believe that taking time for yourself is a selfish thing to do.  In fact, the opposite is true:  if you are not at your peak, you cannot take care of others.  I think new moms AND single mothers are especially prone not to take ME time.  They believe ‘the baby’ …..”the kids”…takes precedence over all of their lives, and they must bow to their every whim. 
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But the thing is, that is exhausting, and if you are exhausted, you cannot be a good mom. I have come to a cease halt because I HAVE BECOME VERY EXHAUSTED and this week, I thought that I would literally just keel over from tiredness!

On an airplane, parents are taught to put the mask on themselves first then to place the mask on their kids.  This is because if they have trouble getting the mask on their children, both the parent and the child could die because neither got their mask on properly. 

I believe this applies to life as well:  you have to take care of yourself first!!! I may be VERY LATE just now discovering to put ME FIRST but it is better late than never!
Taking time for yourself needs to be just that:  a few hours where you are not interrupted or wondering when the children are going to need something next.  It needs to be something you do completely for yourself.  Going grocery shopping away from the kids does not count…’me time’ must be something you like to do and you do only for yourself.
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Think about taking a class you’ve always wanted to take, or taking time out to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, or even just sleeping in.

Turn off the cell phone, and inform everyone that you are not to be disturbed, and then follow through with that:  do not allow anyone to disturb you.  The best way to do this is to get away from the kids and husband and go somewhere else. 

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My son now is used to going away to camp at least a few times a year.

How about Don’t take the kids with you, just go somewhere and unwind!! But do it WITH NO KIDS!! I have taken it a step further to send my son to camp for 4 weeks over the summer. One week in June, two weeks in July and one week in August. They are all split apart of course so we can still bond and have our time BUT I have made a very conscious decision to put me first going forward!

I want to LIVE! but live well..be happy..be healthy & remain whole!

Women's Stuff

My LIFE…… in a nutshell


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When women become MOTHERS…..sometimes it seems as if “our lives” stop as well…… Although being a good and productive mother is very important… However, losing ourselves in “any role” is not good if it leaves US drowning..

Welp, it is time to change the S into a DIFFERENT letter of our choice! LOL

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My youngest will be 11 years old in a few weeks and GOD KNOW and everyone else knows that I love my son dearly….. However, over the last month..I have advised him AFTER my own self.. ( lol ) that things would be a little different in our lives…. He smiled and laughed but honey ..he has NO IDEA…..
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Over the last three summers I have been sending him away to different camps and I have spaced them out for the sake of us BOTH missing one another..LOL However, last summer…I indeed “prepped my baby” to be gone 3 times… and he stated that he did not mind going away but it was different not seeing me so often…. Then he stated, he just does not want to be gone for a WHOLE MONTH at a time – which I understand and I would not do that either…
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I would miss him too much myself!! But baby… this summer.. >BYE! He leaves for the FIRST camp in 2 days and comes back Sunday early afternoon..

Then GONE twice in June for two weeks then GONE once in July for one week and then GONE once in August for a week. Do you hear me singing? So having a week off every month so I can just BREATH and he can go play, have fun in the surroundings of good Christian Camps… He indeed is a good boy but, I need air!
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Give me a minute…. I am working on another week trip right before the school year starts! LOL

Having your own time is crucial…….to maintain your happiness / sanity!